Definitions limit problems, and solutions

Definition is important in two respects. First, the words imply the probability of the solution. Your first definition of a problem will probably imply an impossible solution. As you gain understanding of the obstacle, you can redefine the solution as improbable.




Further understanding will lead you to realising the learning opportunities available and the solution becomes possible and finally you will hopefully see how you can thrive, which means the solution is probable.




The second part of definition is scope. If you define too much, you can paralyze yourself in your analysis of the situation. If you don’t define enough, you create to great a scape of possibility to deal with. If you can figure out which way you have limited yourself, then you can adjust and compensate.

Feeling your way through an obstacle

To fix a problem, one must know what the problem is. Sometimes you will find the obstacle you thought you needed to fix is actually only a symptom of a deeper, more complicated problem. It is good to know both, but you can only know this by knowing your feelings about the obstacle, and then thinking about what those feelings tell you.

Flexibility

First, recognise that there is a hell of a lot you don’t know. Next, accept that most of what you do know you will find out later is wrong. Then figure out what you can do with what you are confident you do know and be prepared to change that as you find out your knowledge was flawed, or the plan isn’t work as expected. That is how you make a dynamic plan.


Do not be afraid to begin to plan, knowing that you don’t know. Just accept that the plan will change as you learn and experience more.

It is rocket science

For those who find recovery easy, they don’t call it recovery, they call it getting on with life. For those who find it hard, consider what your obstacle is. It may be someone, a lack of some kind of resource, ignorance, something you fear or many other possibilities. Until you can identify what your obstacle is, you can’t solve it or find a way around it.

Evil thoughts?

It is not the thoughts you have, or the intention you mean, or the outcome that counts. Only the actions you choose and d acts you do which move you that count.

Moving through Recovery

Recovery is not being stagnant. It is about moving on with your life. And for it to be *your* life, your actions toward recovery must be *your* actions, *your* plan, *your* recovery. That doesn’t mean you can’t get help along the way, but it does mean that other people can’t carry you.

A good Recovery Plan includes Risk Management

A well planned recovery path includes risk management, but includes it in a fashion that ends in the completion of your goal. If you start with risk management, you will not have a goal you are trying to achieve. Thus all decisions should be made with the successful outcome in mind, rather than avoiding anything that may be risky.

Recovery includes going “backwards”

When attempting to recover your life, all your decisions should be based on “how will this improve my situation?” This can include a backwards step that helps leads to progress. Consider parking your car. If you come in wide, and can only go forwards, you will do yourself harm. Sometimes you have to go backwards to safely go forwards.

Doing is not being

If you don’t know what to do, or your are barred from doing, you feel powerless.

This is part of our human nature. We wish to control our environment to increase our safety and maximise our comfort. When we can’t do this, we feel incapable, question our ability and have issues with our identity and ego.

Remember that we are Human Beings. We don’t have to do. Just be.

Our being is not defined by what we do, but rather by why we do. This “why”, this being, does not require us to do, it is just frustrating when we can’t do.